I have a husband loved so much that I did everything to be with him. He does not love me enough, he says. I have therefore broken up with him after about a year relationship. Because of continuing feelings, however, we are still “intimate” friends. It’s a dead end: I would like to meet other men while I am still prisoner of my love for him – hope dies last. How do I get out of it?
If I understand you correctly, you were with him, but he did not love, and now you’re with him, but he does not love you.
You have separated, without separating, your relationship advice is undead, do a zombie relationship. Well, do not call it relationship anymore, but intimate friendship, but otherwise it’s the same dead end, only the street name has changed.
For him, the situation is not uncomfortable, he has his regular ration sex without commitments. He will not change that, living beings are competent utility maximizers.
But for you? You stay in your cozy impasse in which you are not loved, but they can indulge in fantasies. Wolf Biermann said, who kill the hope was a bastard; then I have to be a bitch well. I think it is anyway rather with Heiner Müller, who called Hope “lack of information”.
So here is some information based on what you tell yourself: you call a dead-end relationship, that is before you is nothing. Nothing. In the best case, which is the worst time, you are still a few years have inconsequential, still hopeful intercourse and are then replaced by him as a burned out light bulb (where I let resonate here in error, he was a bad man – he says Finally, expressly states that he does not sufficiently loves). The alternative is that it happens sooner.
They want to know how to get out of the impasse, but in reality, you want to stay prefer crouch in the impasse. If you want that, then you do it. Otherwise, you have to stand up, turn around and go.
This is too hard? Accept that it’s hard. Take out that you’ll be sad to four kilos grow and get three persistently recurring grief pimples.
It will pass. And then there is again a big unknown street in front of you with men left and right.